10 Positive Phrases for Your Little Ones

Published 29 June 2024 at 10:12

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Can we know what words of ours will remain in our children's memories when they grow up? 

Could our parents have imagined that we would remember them? Whose voice will be in our heads when something good or bad happens and we look to our memories for something to sustain us?

We can't predict that. However, we can do our best to ensure that our children remember words of support and love no matter what happens.

That’s why we at TickiKids have gathered several lists of positive phrases to tell children and here is another set of phrases you can use.

Why are positive phrases important? 

We always underestimate the power of words, yet, research has shown that words directly impact a child’s developing brain. The study conducted by scholars at the University of California shows that emotional pain hurts the human brain in the same way as physical pain and decreases the gray matter of the brain that is responsible for self-regulation and self-discipline. 

That's why we, parents, need to learn how to take control of the power of words and use it to motivate children, help them, and give them strength. 

As a parent, I know how hard it can be to hold back, not to yell or stop before you say something you'll regret. However, it is our responsibility to learn to do so for the good of our children.

Editor’s Tip:
Try to follow the THINK method - make a pause long enough to evaluate what you are going to say next - is it True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary or Kind. This skill may come in handy not just in parenting but in everyday life also. 

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How to speak to your children?

Believe it or not, a lot depends on the tone of voice. My father was a Grand Master of sarcasm, so trust me when I say that the phrase “What a great idea!” will never ever have a positive meaning for me.   

• Use simple language when you talk to younger children. Short sentences and basic words help children understand what you're saying and make it easier for them to respond.
• Physically get down to them. Be on the same level with the child’s eyes - that makes communication more efficient, comfortable, and engaging.
• Listen to your child. Make sure that you pay full attention to everything they are saying. Node, respond appropriately and don't get distracted by your phone or your work.
• Be patient and calm. Give your little one the possibility to say everything, do not interrupt or finish sentences for them. 
• Show empathy. A kid need to see that their feelings are validated and understood. 

10 Phrases you should incorporate into your vocabulary

I am proud of your effort.

Show kids that it is not necessary to focus only on the outcomes, the efforts are also important. By saying this, you recognize the journey to the result and value their hard work.

You are a good kid having a hard time. I am here for you. 

Children want to make sure they are worthy of our love. And more importantly, our unconditional love. Even when they make mistakes or behave in a way that we do not accept. That’s when they feel safe and comfortable and that is the environment they need to develop most efficiently. So use this phrase instead of something like “You should be ashamed of yourself”. 

Firstly, children do not understand the concept of shame, it is a learned emotion. Next, they start to associate their mistakes (an integral part of brain development, mind you) with something horrible. 

You can always ask for help

It is a great possibility to improve your little one’s problem-solving skills. This way, you show them that it is OK to seek assistance when it is needed. 

It sounds like something doesn’t feel good to you

This is a great phrase to tell a child that is upset. Please, do not try to shush negative emotions and move them along to the next positive emotion. Give them time to process what’s wrong, help them to understand their feelings, and learn to cope with them. So stop saying “You’re fine” when your kid is 100% not fine, do not confuse them.

I see what you want. At the same time…

Use it when you see a need to say “Do it because I said so”. It is not a valid reason for a child to do something and in addition, thus we show them that they have to suppress their wants and desires and lessen their boundaries. 

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Let’s see if we can make something good out of it

There are plenty of situations that are depressing for our kids, even if we do not count them as such. This phrase helps them to manage their disappointment and rescue them from feeling bad. Yes, it can be difficult (who can handle the despair of the canceled playdate?), however, be persistent and search for positive solutions together. For example, you can stay at home and bake something delicious or play games, organize a family movie night, and so on. 

You get better every single day

Why is this phrase great? Firstly, you don't compare your children to someone else, you compare them to them yesterday. And, they learn that there is always a possibility to grow, to improve and become better selves. 

Would you like a do-over?

This is a great phrase when you want to let them know that their behavior is unacceptable, however, you want to avoid scolding them. It works great in several ways:

• It works well in both house and public places
• You and your kid work together to reenact the moment - it is you as a team against the bad situation, and not you against your child

I love spending time with you

Show them your love and support. This phrase is a perfect tool for building strong emotional bonds.

My day is incomplete without your hug!

And add a bear hug! Sometimes such actions speak louder than words. And your kids will feel that they are loved, guaranteed.

None of us, parents, are perfect. We yell, we are anxious, sometimes do not pay attention, or scold children who are sad and sorry already. However, it is in our power to be better and make our communication with children more positive.

Try using these phrases and you will see the difference (we tried and it works!). And what are your favorite words for your little ones?